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The Obvious Thing

Long ago I had a boyfriend who was prepared for the apocalypse. He kept a bug-out bag in his trunk, containing tools with which to rebuild Western civilization. He got into fights with cops. “They’re always pointing guns at me.” He was the one who told me about Oklahoma stud […]

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All About Sound

Ecstatic dance: rolling around a vibrating floor with a hundred people. It’s how I spend my Thursday evenings. Recently, a dancer with a degenerative illness shared: “It’s at the moment when I bring all my pain to the movement, that the dance becomes ecstatic.” After the dance, we lie on […]


Time’s Executioner

Friends with neurodiverse brains have told me that it often feels like they are living in the eternal present. Things happen around them, but it feels like watching someone dancing in a strobe light–a series of poses that might be connected, but there’s no linear path that they can track.


How To Avoid Being Swallowed

It’s impossible to overstate how big an effect your environment has on your nervous system. Living in urban environments, it’s easy to forget that human beings evolved, literally, in nature. Our nervous systems are attuned to cues that have been in place for millions of years–when to wake up (light gets blue), […]


Decluttering Your Mind

This week I went on a decluttering tear. Sorting paperwork became two days of cleaning, purging, reorganizing, repairing, maintaining and rethinking systems. Frankly, it felt at the time like procrastination. Surely I should have been working on my business? But as soon as I went back to ‘work,’ my productivity […]


The Patron from Hell

I am that patron. I am the patron who enters your establishment, inhales a toxic odor, and writes a review about it. I am the patron who asks that the music be turned down, five times, of five different people, including the manager, then takes the party onto the sidewalk […]


Scream Machines and Big Design

  One of the people I loved most in the world could not recognize his own mother in photos. He invented a system of hacks to disguise his inability to read social cues. His understanding of spatial relationships was so nuanced that he broke every test he took. He re-imagined […]


Sustainability: It’s Your Health

TW: language, family dysfunction When we first moved to Philadelphia, I committed two terrible sins. Arriving in the South Philly home of my mother-in-law, where residents cut down street trees because they are “messy,” I 1) opened the blinds, and 2) bought plants for the front windows. Later, after the storm of shock […]